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After the first dance, still cheek to cheek

31 Jan, 2012 12:00 AM
LIKE so many great love stories, for Patricia and Neil Bextream it all started with a dance.

Last Friday, the couple shared a milestone celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary.

It was at the Moonee Ponds Town Hall in 1958 when they first met.

Patricia was 16 and in town from Ballarat, while Neil was 17 and a local through and through.

Each impressed the other with fleet footwork and it wasn't long before they were dancing together well into the evening.

Neil was even kind enough to give his dancing partner a lift home to her friend's house in Yarraville.

"I think there was a little bit of a shock when he found out I was from Ballarat, but he was undeterred," Patricia said of their initial meeting and blooming friendship.

Within four years the couple were married at Saint John's Anglican Church in Ballarat.

You get the impression it would have been sooner if they had had it all their own way.

"We weren't allowed to be married any earlier, and in those days you did what you were told," explains Patricia.

A carpenter, Neil soon got busy building the young couple a family home in East Keilor. As soon as it was finished they moved in.

By 1964 the first of five children, Merrilyn, was welcomed into the world. Over the years Carolynne, Lineen, Adam and Matthew would also join the family.

There was a two-year stint in Perth, a tough venture into their own small business, a career change or two for Neil and plenty of involvement in community groups and sports teams that have made the pair a fixture of life in Moonee Valley.

With a few upgrades and extensions, the well-built East Keilor house is still the family home, though for the past few months Neil has lived in the Wintringham Ron Conn Nursing Home, after his diagnosis with a terminal illness some time ago.

Like the many challenges in the couple's lives, this is another they have taken on together, and with total confidence in each other.

"At times things in our lives have been hard and hectic but also very rewarding. This illness has been a blow, but we will take it in our stride," Patricia said.

"We are thrilled to be getting to our 50th anniversary and for the past six months it's really been driving Neil."

Clearly still as fond of his wife today as the day they met back in 1958, Neil believes they've been a perfect pair.

Against the odds he has powered on to celebrate their special day.

His eyes light up when talking about Patricia and their family, which now includes eight grandchildren.

Neil believes one of the secrets to their success is talking things through.

"When problems arise, whether physical or mental, the main thing and the easiest thing to do is talk it through and in the end you can come to a compromise.

"We've shared so much together," Patricia said.

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Enduring partnership: Patricia and Neil Bextream have celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. Picture: Marco De Luca
Enduring partnership: Patricia and Neil Bextream have celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. Picture: Marco De Luca

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